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Invest your time wisely

Dear Reader,

The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.

— Steven Spielberg

Time is the only thing we cannot get back.

Invest your time wisely by investing some of it in someone else. Help them become every thing they can be.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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Rise to the occasion

Dear Reader,

My very first shot at speaking at a conference came long before I entered the PHP community.  It was back in my FoxPro days. Several of my co-workers were putting together a regional FoxPro conference and they asked me if I wanted to speak.

I hemmed and hawed, and said, “let me get back to you”.

Life moved on without me. I was stuck behind a wall of fear and just could not move on.

I decided – sitting in that conference that I could have been speaking at – that if I was ever asked again, I would immediately say YES.

If you want to speak, you have to not only be willing to rise to the occasion, you have to be ready to.

Get yourself in the mindset to step up.  Convince yourself that you are ready.

Then, the next time your PHP User Group leader asks for volunteers to speak, rise to the occasion.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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Step up and lead

Dear Reader,

I used to wait for permission to speak up, permission to take action, permission to lead.

Then one day I looked at those who were moving ahead of me. I noticed that they never waited. They didn’t bother asking. They saw something that needed to be done and they did it.

If what they did wasn’t exactly right, they didn’t get fired, they usually got help.

In the end, most of them started moving ahead of me career wise. Not because they were luckier than me, and not because they always did the right thing. They moved ahead because they did something.

Be on the lookout for something that need to be done.

  • At work
  • In an Open Source project
  • In your non-technical community

When you see it, step up…and lead.

Until next time,
I <3 |<

I hate selling almost as much as I hate being sold

Dear Reader,

I hate selling things. I don’t mind showing people something I have created and seeing if they are interested, but I hate going full-on sales mode trying to convince someone that what I have to offer is something they need.

If someone does not buy what I am selling, one of two things has happened.

  1. I have failed to show that my product solves their needs
  2. They understand what I am selling and understand that it does not meet their needs.

In the first case, I blew it. I need to refine my pitch and try again on someone else.

In the second case, I blew it because I tried to sell to the wrong person.

In both cases, no amount ‘Yes but…’ or ‘Hey, did you get my email…” is going to help me close the sale.

Seeing people’s eyes light up when they see what I am offering and understand how it can help them is awesome. That’s not selling, that’s helping people.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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Surviving

Dear reader,

I love pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I love even more making it back to my comfort zone. When I make it back, I can sit quietly and recap what I did, how much fun it was – or wasn’t – and reflect on the fact that I…survived.

Surviving life is not the point. As the old saying goes, “None of us gets out alive.”

I want to thrive.

I want to make an impact.

I want every project I do to improve someone’s life.

Thriving is the point of life; but when I when get back from venturing outside my comfort zone, surviving feels good.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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