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Hard for me to say I’m sorry

Dear friend,

The book “Conspiracy” deals with the Hulk Hogan/Gawker trial that eventually bankrupted Gawker.  It is a fascinating case study on hubris. At several points it is pointed out that if Gawker had publicly apologized for publishing the video and for its condescending attitude towards Hogan, things would have turned out very differently for them.

Instead, at one point, about mid-way through the ordeal, they doubled down on their hubris by offering Hogan the opportunity to walk away and they would not sue him for their attorney’s fees.

All they had to do was apologize and they could have saved themselves, yet they couldn’t do it.

This is a problem I struggle with. My ego prevents me from apologizing, even when I know I am wrong. Especially when I know I am wrong.

I was raised better. I know that it is ok to say I am sorry. Growing up, I was encouraged to do so.

I need to return to my roots. I need to return to saying I’m sorry.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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p.s. Apologies to Chicago for ripping off their lyrics. :)

Do what you love

Dear Reader,

A dive student came up to me and gave me a tip. With it she said, thank you for being there to help us this weekend.

“Thanks but I do this because I love diving.” I replied.

“We know, that’s why it is fun to train with you”, she said.

We’ve been saying “Do what you love” for years, but we’ve been looking at it the wrong way. Don’t do what you love for you, do what you love for those you touch. When you are doing what you love, you take more care, you are happier, and overall, you are a much nicer person.

Do what you love, but do it for the rest of us.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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Paying for Open Source

Dear Reader,

There is a LOT of talk going on about open source, paying, licenses, an other fun topics. Open Source is growing up and people are trying to figure out how to make a living at it. Yes, there are some bad actors out there strip-mining the value out of some open source projects without contributing to the project. There are however, OS heros out there.

PHPStorm has hired  Nikita Popov. Here is the one key takeaway in that entire post.

The focus of his work – improving the PHP ecosystem – will remain the same.

JetBrains gets it. They know that for PHPStorm to thrive, there has to be ongoing and serious development  on PHP, it cannot grow stale. So they stepped up.

Do you work at a company whose existence is only possible because of open source software? (I do) Then you (we) need to step up. If you are paying attention you know that there is another  high-profile core developer looking for a job. Talk to your managers. Talk to your CEO. Have your company step up and ensure its own long term survival the way that JetBrains did.

Give back.

Hire a core developer and pay them to work on PHP.

Be an open source hero like JetBrains.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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It’s ok to fail, it’s not ok to not try

Dear Reader,

  • I tried to learn to play the Trumpet
  • I opened a hosting company whose selling point was ‘secure shared hosting’
  • I tried to learn to dance (NO! Pictures are not available)
  • I tried to re-package ‘ShareWare’ and sell it
  • I tried to learn to play the piano

I am not ashamed of any of these failures. I am proud that I pushed myself into new areas, even if it was only to find that I am not good in those areas.

Failure is not something to be ashamed of, never trying is.

Until next time
I <3 |<
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Make a point to learn

Dear Reader,

You make time for the things that are important to you. Look at your calendar for the three months just passed. Did you set aside time to expose yourself to new concepts and new ideas?

Life moved fast and the things that get done are the important things. The tech industry moves fast too. If you don’t set aside some time on a regular basis to learn something new, you will find important concepts – and opportunities – will pass you by.

Set aside some time this week to learn something new.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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p.s. Managers, invest in your employees. Set aside some time for them to learn and explore. Yes, it will impact their productivity…but not the way you think. :)