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She said YES!

Dear Reader,

Once again I warn you that this is a personal blog. However, I am happy to announce that our ranks of readership have swelled to 5 now. (/me waves hi to Jack) As with last time, if you are looking for deep insight…well, you are in the wrong place to begin with.

For those of you who know me, you know that I’m coming out of a year of craziness. I did some things…not good things…things I have 19 more years of apologies for. To that end…

On October 27th, 2005 at 11:10 AM, the lovely and talented Kathy Rebbeca (Murar) Evans said that she would marry me, all over again! (Pictures when PinkBird gets off her butt and sends them to me)

It was a beautiful surprise. It was a small ceremony with just the kids, our pastor, Kathy’s best friend, and the people she works with. (Many thanks to Jennifer; I couldn’t have pulled this off without your help. You too Larry, thanks for clearing the office. You are a heck of a boss.)

We staged on the balcony in a restaurant in her building. Once everybody was there, I went upstairs and got her. Jennifer had scheduled a meeting for her so when I showed up, I announced myself as her 11:00. :)

Without explaining, I escorted her downstairs to the restaurant, out to the balcony. There in front of her friends, co-workers and our kids, I got down on one knee and I asked her to marry me all over again – pregnant pause of at least 30 seconds – AND SHE SAID YES! I was worried thre for a moment. If she said no, well, lunch was off.

Tim, our pastor, performed a beautiful ceremony in which we recommitted our vows. (Thank you Tim!)

After it was all over, we went inside and ate. (The food there is wonderful!)

All in all it was a wonderful day in my life; the second best so far. I told Kathy afterwards that I was taken aback at how powerfully it affected me. I enjoy making “Grand Gestures” but usually the joy is in the gesture. This one was different. As I stood there looking at this beautiful woman who for 22 years has stood by me, I was moved more deeply than I am usually comfortable with. I was outside of my comfort zone…but you know, it felt wonderful. It felt wonderful because she was standing there next to me. I knew as long as she was there, I can deal with everything else.

Thank you my love; thank you for 22 wonderful years. I hope to spend the rest of my life saying thank you.

Until next time, it was great being home again!


p.s. Thanks to you too Kim. Thanks for…well, everything.

A sincere apology

Dear Reader,

I don’t often blog about me personally. I try to limit my blogs to things happening around me because as far as I know there are only 4 readers of my blog. 2 of you know the details of my personal life and don’t need it repeated here. The other two could probably care less. Those 2 might want to skip this entry as it’s just not going to be that interesting to you.

It’s October. Those of you who know me know that this is when my year of craziness started. So it’s no surprise that I’ve spent a good amount f time this month so far thinking about the past year. I’ve come to 1 conclusion so far. I owe many of you very deep and personal apologies for the pain I’ve caused. I am not speaking to my wife (The lovely and talented Kathy Evans) right now because I apologize to her on an almost daily basis for the pain I’ve caused her and continually try to go out of my way to show and prove my love for her. (Dear, don’t get used to this, you’ve only got 19 more years of it before my sentence is done.) :)

To the others of you I’ve hurt, you know who you are, even if we are not currently communicating on a regular basis. I am deeply and truly sorry for the pain I’ve caused. (This does not mean I want to resume regular communication, but I felt that this needed to be said.)

Until next time, 8 days and counting.

Web 2.0 – Day 2.

Dear Reader,

Today I write to you from the arctic wasteland that is the Argent Hotel in San Francisco. Overreaction isn’t the correct word for the temperature in the room. There are 500-1,000 people in this room as well as the lighting grid and it’s absolutely freezing in here. It’s gotta be 60 degrees in here and the air is still blowing. I wish I could get this air conditioner for my house!

Now to the content. Yesterday afternoon we say 13 companies give a 6 minute elevator pitch. Some of them were pretty good, others were lame. The 3 that stuck out in my mind were:
This is a cool idea. opened their search API (as well as Google) and some innovative developers have gotten together to developed a front end to allow you to define, in effect, a search engine of your trusted sources. In and of itself, this is a cool idea but stealing their idea, sites that are primarily data-driven where most of the data is stored in a variety of fields in a database, searches have always been a problem. Why not make it so that, yes, I can define my own search but hen I can embed it in a search box on my web site. Yea, I know, I could hammer something out myself, but they’ve already got it. If Yahoo has already spidered the site, why not leverage that? Of course that breaks their business model of advertising supported web site; there’ got to be a way where they can make some money and we can have access to their search builder API.
“social” is the buzzword of the day. Well it was Wed. Wed. was all about was the coolest of the “social*” applications I saw. In effect, it gives developers (specifically, Flash developers) a place to develop social applications, games, IM, photo sharing, let your mind wander. It allows people to setup social networks to leverage the applications that developers are building. Now they are faced with the classic “chicken-n-egg” problem but are overcoming it by enticing some small development companies to build the initial apps (mainly games) for them to seed the network. They announced in their pitch that they had brought the development company Metaliq to build a “Texas Hold’em” game. (Ok, so it’s not that original, Poker is so last week) unlike other game sites though, your game is locked to know your network. So you can log in with your brother in NC and pay poker, IM or share photos. Overall it sounds like a cool idea…but then again, so did Pointcast back in ’97.
This app just rocks. At it’s core, it’s a groupware server; mail, calendars, contacts, etc. The server piece is very good. But then they went and topped it off with a free, web/AJAX based client. The client is just awesome. It’s a very rich experience. In the 6 minutes they gave their demo, they blew us all away. It’s hard to describe with just words. All I can say is that if you are in the market for a good groupware application for your company, you need to loo at

Well, that’s it for yesterday’s wrapup. Let me catch my breath and I’ll start in on today’s update.

Till next time, I’m glad you liked the chocolates.

Live from Web2.0

Dear Reader,

Greetings from beautiful downtown San Francisco! I’m here at the Argent Hotel attending Web 2.0. The morning can be described in one word, “washout”. The one workshop I wanted to attend was the AJAX workshop. However, just as things were kicking in, I had to jump out to handle an emergency for work. The conference is “Sold Out” which is obviously the code word these days for “over booked”. Once you leave a workshop there is no getting back in. Every workshop of even moderate interest is standing room only. The really good ones (AJAX, The video workshop, etc.) have people standing out the doors waiting for someone to leave so they can snag a seat. it’s more than a bit frustrating given the price of the conference.

On the upside, i have met several interesting people. I ate breakfast with Roblimo, stood and talked with (really I listened to) Ward Cunningham and had lunch with Janice Fraser and Lane Becker of Adaptive Path. It’s fun (as in the cases of Roblimo and Ward Cunningham) to place faces with the names I’ve come to know only on the web.

Anyhow, things seem to be settling down now and I’m ready to have my mind expanded. I’ll post more later.

Until then, this would be more fun with you.



Alienware Update

Dear Reader,

Good news and bad.

The good news is that Quaagar is on his way back home to me. I have the FedEx tracking number (I only mention that because they haven’t visited me in a while and I miss my FedEx fan club) and am watching it traverse the country. (deftly bypassing the Gulf Coast)

The bad news is that even though I asked the last support tech (Even) to make a note in my records to have the service technician call me before he returned the laptop, he did not. Therefore, I am blind as to what actually was replaced. I’ll have to disassemble it to find out now. :( Oh well, I’ve gotten used to working off my cute little Mac now so if it’s still fubar, I’ll just RMA it yet again. (Note to those at Alienware who are reading this, that is what I will continue doing until it works properly. I will continue to simply return it for repair. Since it doesn’t cost me anything to do so, I’m betting you get tired of this game before I do.)

Anyhow, as the say, the saga continues.

Until next time, congratulates and I’m very proud of you.