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I am not my code

Dear Reader,

In my mind, I hand craft bespoke solutions to problems; each solution as finely engineered as a Swiss watch. They are my little solutions that I create and send out into the world to solve problems forever.

In reality, I pull a ticket from Jira, I solve the problem, I move on.

I have to be careful what I put my identity into. It’s fine to identify as a programmer; it can be dangerous to identify only with a single project.

As soon as my identity is wrapped up in a specific project or piece of code, I take personally any comments made about the project. If someone doesn’t like the code, they obviously don’t like me.  This may leads to epic raging battles across social media and email, but it never solves anything, it only entrenches me further.

I have to divorce yourself from your code. I am a well-rounded human being, not a code factory. No matter how much I love my creation, at the end of the day, I have to put it in a box and forget about it for a while.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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Just say no

Dear Reader,

No is the hardest word in the English language for me to master. (Ignore my kids howling in protest) When people ask me a question it’s like I am in an improve group and my answer is always YES!

I need to learn to say no.

No, I will not be involved in your new idea.

No, I will not mentor you.

No, I will not write that code/build that website for your non-profit.

In most cases, it has absolutely nothing to do with you, or the validity of your idea. It has everything to do with my own mental health, and my happiness.

Please don’t be offended if you ask me to help and I say “I am honored that you asked but no, I cannot help.”

Trust me, it’s not you, it’s me.

Until next time,
I <3 |<
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